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Wednesday, December 7, 2011

The Dad I Want For My Unborn Daughter's...

I was in tears as I read through this list, as I’m sure many grown daughters will be. Mothers – bookmark this list of rules and encourage your daughter’s daddy to read them, memorize them, and put them in to action. And, to all you Dads out there – be sure you pay close attention and heed these wise words.
1. Love her mom. Treat her mother with respect, honor, and a big heaping spoonful of public displays of affection. When she grows up, the odds are good she’ll fall in love with and marry someone who treats her much like you treated her mother. Good or bad, that’s just the way it is. I’d prefer good.

2. Always be there. Quality time doesn’t happen without quantity time. Hang out together for no other reason than just to be in each other’s presence. Be genuinely interested in the things that interest her. She needs her dad to be involved in her life at every stage. Don’t just sit idly by while she add years to her… add life to her years.

3. Save the day. She’ll grow up looking for a hero. It might as well be you. She’ll need you to come through for her over and over again throughout her life. Rise to the occasion. Red cape and blue tights optional.

4. Savor every moment you have together. Today she’s crawling around the house in diapers, tomorrow you’re handing her the keys to the car, and before you know it, you’re walking her down the aisle. Some day soon, hanging out with her old man won’t be the bees knees anymore. Life happens pretty fast. You better cherish it while you can.

5. Pray for her. Regularly. Passionately. Continually.

6. Buy her a glove and teach her to throw a baseball. Make her proud to throw like a girl… a girl with a wicked slider.

7. She will fight with her mother. Choose sides wisely.

8. Go ahead. Buy her those pearls.

9. Of course you look silly playing peek-a-boo. You should play anyway.

10. Enjoy the wonder of bath time.

11. There will come a day when she asks for a puppy. Don’t over think it. At least one time in her life, just say, “Yes.”

12. It’s never too early to start teaching her about money. She will still probably suck you dry as a teenager… and on her wedding day.

13. Make pancakes in the shape of her age for breakfast on her birthday. In a pinch, donuts with pink sprinkles and a candle will suffice.

14. Buy her a pair of Chucks as soon as she starts walking. She won’t always want to wear matching shoes with her old man.

15. Dance with her. Start when she’s a little girl or even when she’s a baby. Don’t wait ‘til her wedding day.

16. Take her fishing. She will probably squirm more than the worm on your hook. That’s OK.

17. Learn to say no. She may pitch a fit today, but someday you’ll both be glad you stuck to your guns.

18. Tell her she’s beautiful. Say it over and over again. Someday an animated movie or “beauty” magazine will try to convince her otherwise.

19. Teach her to change a flat. A tire without air need not be a major panic inducing event in her life. She’ll still call you crying the first time it happens.

20. Take her camping. Immerse her in the great outdoors. Watch her eyes fill with wonder the first time she sees the beauty of wide open spaces. Leave the iPod at home.

21. Let her hold the wheel. She will always remember when daddy let her drive.

22. She’s as smart as any boy. Make sure she knows that.

23. When she learns to give kisses, she will want to plant them all over your face. Encourage this practice.

24. Knowing how to eat sunflower seeds correctly will not help her get into a good college. Teach her anyway.

25. Letting her ride on your shoulders is pure magic. Do it now while you have a strong back and she’s still tiny.

26. It is in her nature to make music. It’s up to you to introduce her to the joy of socks on a wooden floor.

27. If there’s a splash park near your home, take her there often. She will be drawn to the water like a duck to a puddle.

28. She will eagerly await your return home from work in the evenings. Don’t be late.

29. If her mom enrolls her in swim lessons, make sure you get in the pool too. Don’t be intimidated if there are no other dads there. It’s their loss.

30. Never miss her birthday. In ten years she won’t remember the present you gave her. She will remember if you weren’t there.

31. Teach her to roller skate. Watch her confidence soar.

32. Let her roll around in the grass. It’s good for her soul. It’s not bad for yours either.

33. Take her swimsuit shopping. Don’t be afraid to veto some of her choices, but resist the urge to buy her full-body beach pajamas.

34. Somewhere between the time she turns three and her sixth birthday, the odds are good that she will ask you to marry her. Let her down gently.

35. She’ll probably want to crawl in bed with you after a nightmare. This is a good thing.

36. Few things in life are more comforting to a crying little girl than her father’s hand. Never forget this.

37. Introduce her to the swings at your local park. She’ll squeal for you to push her higher and faster. Her definition of “higher and faster” is probably not the same as yours. Keep that in mind.

38. When she’s a bit older, your definition of higher and faster will be a lot closer to hers. When that day comes, go ahead… give it all you’ve got.

39. Holding her upside down by the legs while she giggles and screams uncontrollably is great for your biceps. WARNING: She has no concept of muscle fatigue.

40. She might ask you to buy her a pony on her birthday. Unless you live on a farm, do not buy her a pony on her birthday. It’s OK to rent one though.

41. Take it easy on the presents for her birthday and Christmas. Instead, give her the gift of experiences you can share together.

42. Let her know she can always come home. No matter what.

43. Remember, just like a butterfly, she too will spread her wings and fly some day. Enjoy her caterpillar years.

44. Write her a handwritten letter every year on her birthday. Give them to her when she goes off to college, becomes a mother herself, or when you think she needs them most.

45. Learn to trust her. Gradually give her more freedom as she gets older. She will rise to the expectations you set for her.

46. When in doubt, trust your heart. She already does.

47. When your teenage daughter is upset, learning when to engage and when to back off will add years to YOUR life. If you succeed in doing this, tell me how.

48. Ice cream covers over a multitude of sins. Know her favorite flavor.

49. This day is coming soon. There’s nothing you can do to be ready for it. The sooner you accept this fact, the easier it will be.

50. Today she’s walking down the driveway to get on the school bus. Tomorrow she’s going off to college. Don’t blink.

Tuesday, October 18, 2011


I'm happy to report, that I FINALLY GOT A JOB!!

I'm so excited! And even better, I get to work with one of my good friends and old roommate! 

It's also something that I haven't done, so I get to learn a lot of new things!

Sunday, October 9, 2011

October 9th, 2001...

10 years ago.

I can't believe that much time has passed.

It seems like only yesterday was the worst day of my life and one that changed the course of my life forever, and helped me become such a stronger person.

Let me take you back to that Tuesday day. I was a senior in high school. School that day was a blur, but I had work experience for the last 2 periods of the day, so I always went home at lunch. I had conditioning for basketball after school, but for some reason I didn't feel like going.

My 2 best friends. Desiree and Heather, also had these periods off. It was normal for us to talk throughout the day. That day, Heather called me a lot. Her real mom sent her a letter pretty much saying that she didn't want Heather in her life anymore. 

But Heather's mood felt real strange to me over the phone. She had told me that she had a bbgun, and shot holes into her clothing basket and one into the banister. I freaked out and told her that I was going to come over. She told me not to, and if I did she was "going to do something stupid."

 Those words still haunt me until this day.

Heather had to get off the phone, so I immediately called my best friend Desiree. She had her little sister with her, and I told her that I was worried about Heather. She took her sister home, and then came to my house to pick me up. 
I told her about the things that were said in my phone calls to Heather. We both agreed that suicide was not a thing that Heather would do. 

We parked around the corner from her house, so she wouldn't see us. Her door was always unlocked and were always welcome into her home. So we walked in and called for her. There was no answer. The house had such a weird silence to it. 
We went to her room and we could see her lying on the bed. We yelled at her to get up and it was such a sick joke. But she didn't move. Then I could see some blood in her top ear. The phone was right next to her, and as I reached for it, Desiree yelled at me not to touch her. All I could say was, "The phone."

She grabbed it and we ran outside to the driveway and called 911. After she told that what had happened, they asked if she still had a pulse. She refused to go back into the room, so I had to. 

I can never forget that image of her. There. With the blood.

Luckily the bullet never left, so there was not as much blood as you would expect.

All I can remember after that is being interview by the police, and calling my coaches and a few close friends with the news.

The next day I went to school. It also happens to be my mom's birthday. Not many students knew what had happened. I can't forget overhearing a student saying, "She could've at least waited until after homecoming." Or others saying after seeing people cry, "Did someone die that we don't know about?"

It wasn't until the 2nd period of the day that they called in the counselors. I remember people asking questions like who found her and other rumors that they heard and I had to speak up at that point. I can't believe the looks that I got and the questions floored in. All I can remember saying is that "I'm glad that I found her and not her parents. They should never have to see that."

We found out later that Heather was on anti-depressants, but she stopped taking them and the number 1 side affect of sudden with draw is suicide.
And for you all thinking, "Why did they have a gun?" If someone wants to kill themselves, they will do it, no matter what!

So now 10 years later, I have spoken to a few high schools and reached out to some kids that were on the verge of this same fate. And I pray that if anyone out there is going through any hard situation, just remember that you can make it through it, even though I know that you don't feel like it.  Also, suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.

So today, as I celebrate some birthday's with my family, I will have that fake smile on. No matter how much time has passed I still miss her and it doesn't get any easier.

Thursday, October 6, 2011

Juice Yo-self...

So a week ago, I decided to replace one meal a day with fresh squeezed juice, and I love it!  Hopefully soon I can build up to a full cleanse, but for now this is all I think I can do.

Getting all the fruits and veggies ready.

I loved the colors! YUM!!


Saturday, October 1, 2011

Just a Few Things...

First off, I want to tell you about two recent purcheses that I'm in love with!

Yes, the color is not my fav, but I got a great deal on it! $8.49(including tax) at Wal-Mart, but a $5.00 rebate.  So only $3.50! Score!!


Yes! I'm in LOVE! They were more then I wanted to spend, but I just had to have them. And I may or may not have bought the same ones for my friends 4 year old daughter!

Also, I've been working my tail off trying to make money and that equals no days off and no life!

But I do start every morning with fresh juice that I juiced. And I love it! I love knowing that I'm getting my servings of fruits and veggies in!

So I have a little perdicamint. I "work" as a temp up to 5 days a week at an apartment leasing office, and I hate it, but they do want to hire me. I've also been "working" at my friends dad's company 2ish days a week, and she's trying to get me employed part time. But I've had 2ish interviews at a Mercedes dealership, and a third one this week. I know the dealership has unlimited growth, but should I hold out for this, or try at the apartments just to get a job? HELP!

Also, who else is excited for this premire tomorrow?!

I know that I am!!!

Tuesday, September 20, 2011

The Ellen Show...

Months ago I signed up for free tickets to The Ellen Show, and the day finally came  

I had asked for 4 tickets so my SIL, my bestie, her friend and myself could go. Well 2 out of the 4 bailed.
So just my SIL and I went. We still had fun!

They changed our check-in time on us twice, and the last time I talked to them, they told me that we were going to screen the movie 50/50.

Monday was her live show, so we thought we might be on that episode, but I had a feeling that ours was airing on Wednesday, since her guests were the cast of 50/50, and I was right.

The movie was good! It made me cry!

We got out numbers and are waiting for our seats.
About to go in!

Such a funny and sad movie. It's based on a true story as well!

Maroon 5 also preformed their song "Move's Like Jagger"
I've seen them live before and I enjoyed it so much! They do not disappoint live!
Everyone was given the Maroon 5 CD, as well as the Snapple that they made. Super yummy!

After we left, we STARVING and we did not want to sit in LA traffic at 5pm, so we went to this little Italian restaurant called Lucas. OMG! Super yummy!. We shared our meal and was so glad that we did.

Crusted chicken with a Lemon Butter sauce. With mashed potatoes and veggies. To die for!
Then dessert was a lemon custard with strawberries and whipped. The best ever!

Well look for me tomorrow on her show!

Thursday, September 15, 2011

5 Years Ago...

The world lost a good man.

He was my Pop-Pop.

I know a lot of you are thinking, "What is a Pop-Pop?" But he was my grandpa. I've barely met my Dad's family, so my Mom's family has always been both grandparents to me. So when I lost him, it was like losing both grandpa's at once.

My world changed the day that happened. I lost a lot of friends due to the fact that I felt they weren't there for me the way that I would've been there for them.  I also became a lot closer to the ones that I worked with at the time, because they were there for me.
Since then, I've rekindled the friendships, and still kept the ones with my old co-workers. 

I know that I couldn't have lived the way I have without any of them.

 Here are some of the picture's that I have of my Pop-Pop.

My first picture with my Pop-Pop.

Fish Fry in 1986.
My favorite picture of him!

My last picture with him.

Their 50th wedding anniversary at Club 33 in Disneyland.